Saturday, July 23, 2011

Orphan Becomes A Sensation

I had a disturbing conversation on the World Orphan Fund Facebook page with a woman who was complaining about Orphans. How about the World Birth Control Fund she asked? She said she was tired of hearing whiney appeals for funds over the past 25 years to help orphans created by irresponsible people.

I must be a glutton for punishment because I argued with her. I said that orphans are created by a myriad of causes-- cultural issues, poverty, war, HIV/AIDS, and yep sometimes irresponsibility. And while it is right to address the root problems, what remains are real kids who need our love and our help. They didn't create their situations. Adults did.


Choi Sung-Bong



I think God has a plan for each and every one of them. I stumbled across a story about Choi Sung-Bong, who was left in an orphanage at age 3. About two years later, he ran away from the center to escape from the physical abuse he suffered there. Though homeless, he managed to make a living for 10 years by selling chewing gum and energy drinks, and sleeping in stairwells or public toilets. Choi started dreaming of becoming a singer when he saw performances at night clubs while working.

A turning point in his life arrived when a warm-hearted woman persuaded him to continue studying and gave him the name "Ji-sung." At the time he could not remember his real name. With the help of a social welfare worker, Choi was able to find his original name, and he eventually entered Daejeon Arts high school.

Someone cared and took the time to make a difference in his life. It's something each and every one of us can do.

Choi recently appeared on the Televison show Korea's Got Talent. If you manage to hold back tears watching the clip below, you're a stronger person than me. The YouTube of this has nearly 10 million views.


Saturday, July 16, 2011

12 Year-Old Raises $1,000 and Flys to Siberia

The story below appeared in the Salem (yep that Salem) Massachussetts News, and shows that no matter how old you are you can make a difference in the life of orphans. Bridget Ayers, age 12, contributed all of her birthday and Christmas money to an orphan fund. Then she raised an additional $1,000 and flew to Sibera to volunteer for two weeks at the orphanage.


Bridget Ayers

SALEM — In many ways, Bridget Ayers is a typical 12-year-old. She's in Girl Scouts, she loves reading, and she's excited to go to camp this summer.

But she has a passion that distinguishes her.

Last summer, she began reading a blog written by a Marblehead woman who adopted a daughter from Siberia and returns to the orphanage yearly to bring much-needed supplies, toys and clothing.
By Christmas, Bridget wanted more than anything to meet her, so her mother reached out, and they arranged a get-together around the new year. Bridget and her mother, Kim Ayers, met with Marblehead resident Keri Cahill at Brothers Deli in Salem.

"Bridget handed me a giant jar filled with coins," recalled Cahill, who is in the process of adopting a second child from the orphanage in Siberia.

"I brought all my Christmas and birthday money to donate to the fund of the little boy she's adopting," explained Bridget, who lives in Salem and attends Collins Middle School.

Cahill recalls that during the meeting, she was blown away by "such a passionate young girl." Bridget said she wanted to go to Russia someday, so Cahill invited her to join her on her next trip to Siberia — as long as it was OK with Bridget's parents and she could raise the money to go.

That was all Bridget needed to hear.

"I went home and started making sock puppets that I sold for $5," said Bridget, who sold the puppets at school and church — in all, raising the $1,000, plus donations, that she needed to buy her plane ticket.
Accompanied by her mother, Bridget set off with Cahill and her daughter, Nastia, for two weeks in late May/early June.

"She wanted to have a chance to meet the children she is so passionate about," said Kim Ayers, who owns the StreetSmart driving school in Salem with her husband, Jim. They also have a son, Brad, 10, who is a student at Horace Mann Lab School in Salem.

"Never underestimate the power of a little girl committed to an ideal," Cahill mused.

Harsh realities at Siberian orphanage

The group stayed in the city of Kemerovo and visited the orphanage several hours away in Prokopyevsk, which is in a polluted and impoverished coal-mining region, Kim Ayers said.

The area is plagued by alcoholism, drug addiction, sex trafficking and prostitution, all of which contribute to the high number of orphaned children, she said.

"There are 17 orphanages," she said.

Bridget and her mom brought seven duffel bags, weighing 450 pounds, that were filled with donations for the orphanage, including toys, clothing, soap, toothbrushes, stuffed animals, American Girl dolls and accessories.
Bridget instantly adored the children there, particularly a 7-year-old girl named Genya, whom she had seen in Cahill's photos before the trip.


Bridget and Genya

Kim Ayers said the children are crammed into 22 beds per room, and Bridget said the meager serving size of the meals was one of the things that struck her most.

"They share a bucket of rice, a bucket of condensed milk and a bucket of apples," Kim Ayers said.
"It was rattling," Bridget said. "It made me think about how much Americans eat."

These are things Cahill has grown accustomed to witnessing since she adopted her daughter in 2005.
"The medical care is nonexistent," Cahill said. "They're all sick. They all have giardia or other parasites.

They're all dehydrated."

During the two-week journey, they visited the orphanage twice, visited with Nastia's sister, and spent time with some Shakespeare students Cahill taught while she lived in Siberia for three months. (Cahill runs the Rebel Shakespeare Company on the North Shore.)

"There is so much poverty," Kim Ayers said. "I knew this stuff because I read about it, but I still wasn't prepared."

'Giving hope to the kids'

Bridget, who can be shy in person, is a talented writer, and she keeps a blog about her experiences, http://www.tomarchtoadifferentdrummer.blogspot.com/.

When she got home, she immediately missed all of the children she met in Siberia and was pained by the disparity between their lives and hers. She posted this entry on her blog on June 14:

"Have you ever heard the saying 'Home is where the heart is'? Its a lie. Siberia is where the heart is. In the filthy coal-mining region of Kemerovo. In the little, unknown town of Prokop'yvsk.

"... Most nights I've been waking up at about 3 or 4 a.m. I can't fall back to sleep. Why? Because when I look to my right, I see a window. Outside of the window is a car, so that I don't walk to school, two miles. When I look to my left, I see a bottle of water from the sink that doesn't have parasites in it. I see a closet full of shoes and clothes that fit. ... "

Back at her seventh-grade social studies classroom in Salem, Bridget's teacher Catherine Rosenzweig invited her to show the whole class a video and present a talk on her experiences.

Bridget says the most important part of her trip was "giving hope to the kids," and she's already plotting a way to get back to Siberia.

"I think about them every second of every day," Bridget said.

"I wish there were more people like her," Cahill said.

Saturday, July 9, 2011

A 22 year-old Mother of 13

Katie Davis was homecoming queen in her hometown in Tennessee in 2007. Now 22, she's a foster mother to thirteen orphans aged 2-15 in Uganda and runs a nonprofit called Amazima Ministries. Amazima helps 400 children go to school, provides community health programs and feeds more than a thousand children five days a week.

Here is the National Public Radio story of her inspiring young life.



Four years ago, Katie Davis was homecoming queen at her high school in Brentwood, Tenn. She had a yellow convertible and planned to study nursing in college.

But those plans changed just a little. Today, she's in Uganda, sharing her home with 13 orphaned or abandoned girls, ages 2 to 15. Davis is the legal guardian or foster mother for all of them, and hopes to one day adopt them.

"I think that's definitely something that I was made for," said Davis, 22, a devout Christian who idolizes Mother Teresa. "God just designed me that way because he already knew that this is what the plan was for my life — even though I didn't."

Davis traveled to Uganda after her high school graduation in 2007, but saw it as a temporary move before starting college back in the United States.

She started teaching kindergarten at an orphanage in a small village near the town of Jinja. One night, in January 2008, a mud hut down the road from the orphanage collapsed on three small AIDS orphans during a rainstorm. One of the girls, Agnes, then 9 years old, was taken for medical treatment.

"I was in the hospital, and I asked Mommy whether if I can live with her, and she said, 'yes,' " Agnes recalled.

Davis couldn't find any living relatives willing to take any of the girls, and she refused to send them to an overcrowded orphanage.

"The workers are always changing," Davis said of the orphanages. "Even if you form a relationship with one of the aunties or mommas, or whatever they call them at the orphanage, that momma might leave."

Davis then rented a house to accommodate the three girls. Over the next 18 months, 10 more girls moved in. All had been abandoned or abused, or had watched their parents wither away from AIDS.

Davis has set up an organization that provides food, medication and school fees to Ugandan children.
The youngest girl, Patricia, now 2 years old, was literally given to Davis by an HIV-positive mother who had 11 other children.

"My first instinct is not, 'Oh, a baby — let me adopt it!' Because I think, best-case scenario, they're raised in Uganda by Ugandans," said Davis. "But knowing there is nowhere else for them to go, I don't find myself capable of sending them away."

Everyday Challenges



Getting those 13 girls to sit down at the breakfast table is just the first of many hurdles Davis faces daily.

On a recent day, after rounding up the kids, Davis sat at the head of the table in a gray tank top and plaid boxer shorts, with her long brown hair pulled into braided pigtails. The girls then began to pray in unison. "Dear Jesus, thank you for food ... "

Davis is well-known in Jinja, where she drives her family around town in a 13-passenger minivan. She can apply to formally adopt the girls after serving as their caregiver for three years.

But not everyone supports her.

By law, Davis is too young to adopt in Uganda, said child welfare officer Caroline Bankusha. The rules say an adoptive parent must be at least 25 years old, and at least 21 years older than the child being adopted.
Apart from the age issue, Bankusha also disapproved of Davis taking care of so many children.

"Unless the children are placed under a children's ministry or children's home, which she can start, otherwise it is really bad for someone to have more than five children," she said.

Bankusha conceded that there's a legal loophole that allows judges to make exceptions in the "best interests of the child."

Davis said she has done everything by the book and is the court-appointed caregiver for all of the girls.
The oldest girl, 15-year-old Prossy, says it's certainly in her best interest to stay with Davis.

"I feel like she's really my mother," Prossy said, "because she shows me love and I feel like, yes, this is my mom."

Launching A Nonprofit

Davis has also started a nonprofit organization called Amazima Ministries. With support from U.S. donors, Amazima helps 400 children go to school, provides community health programs and feeds more than a thousand children five days a week. Davis is the director, and the job supports her and her family.

As she washed her two youngest girls in the bathtub, David explained why she has taken on so much.
"People definitely ask me why so many? I don't know," she said. "These are the children that God brought to my door."

Even her own mother, Mary Pat Davis, had questions about what Davis was doing.

"A part of me thinks, gosh, is she giving a part of her life up at such a young age, taking on so much responsibility?" Mary Pat Davis said. "But my heart knows that she's so happy."

Mary Pat Davis now visits Uganda for a couple of months each year to help her daughter care for the Ugandan girls.

Katie Davis said she hopes to get married and have biological children someday. But right now, she has no plans to move back to the United States.

She did return briefly in the fall of 2008 and enrolled in nursing college, fulfilling a promise to her parents. But she quickly realized she missed the Ugandan kids too much. She dropped out and moved back.

"I can't imagine that I would ever be able to afford to raise this many children in America," she said. "We like our life, and we like our community."

At the end of another long day, Davis herded her girls off to bed and tucked them in, providing a glimpse of why she has stayed.

"I love you, Mom," said one of the girls.

"I love you too, babe," Davis said. "Tell your sisters night-night."

Sunday, July 3, 2011

Our Work Begins

My plan in mid-May was to take down a suitcase of items to the kids in Emmanuel, nail down where the World Orphan Fund can help the orphanage and mostly just love on the children. It had only been four months and I already missed them terribly.

My cab driver Norman got me to Emmanuel in about one and a half hours. This was less than half the time it took us to get there by bus in January. His speedometer didn't work, but based on the RPMs we were often doing 90 MPH. It was great.

The kids were surprised to see me so soon, and we spent lots of time together talking, laughing and playing. I had great conversations with both Wade the director of the orphanage and founders Lydia and David Martinez. With all the sickness being brought on by the change in seasons the vast amount of Pedialyte and other items in my extra suitcase were welcomed with smiles. Unlike what they had been using, it was flavored, and that made it much easier to get the kids to drink it. I saw lots of Junior and Kency. Chris and Allan Thomas were down for a month and I was able to spend tons of time with them too. It was going well.

Then things took a turn.

At 11:30 AM on Saturday I started receiving concerned text messages from family members in Florida. My Dad, who had been suffering from dementia had stopped eating and drinking. At 11:30 that night I was told he probably wouldn't make it to the end of the month. I started making plans to go directly to St. Petersburg from Honduras. An later hour my Dad died. I was dumbfounded. In the middle of the Honduran night I just broke down and cried.

The next morning I went to Church with the kids. Lot's of tears there too. But afterwards I was surrounded by the children and they poured out their love like they always do. It held me up.

Jean Johnson 1934-2011

Later in the afternoon I went for a walk with my oldest sponsor child Mersy and told her that my father had died that morning. She looked very sad and asked me if it was really true. I said yes. She took my hand and held it as we walked. She understood my loss better than anyone else possibly could.

Our Work Begins

The main purpose of this trip was to talk with Wade, Lydia and David about how the World Orphan Fund can help at Emmanuel. I came away with three projects.

  1. Higher Education. We will work with Emmanuel to identify sponsor families in the U.S. for children to attend U.S. High Schools and ultimately College; find the necessary funding for their education because by law they must attend private schools; and work with U.S. based companies in Honduras so they have job opportunities in Honduras after graduation. Six children have been identified as excellent prospects and it is our hope to begin placing kids by the 2013-2014 school year. Estimated cost per child: $10,000 per year.
  2. Clean Water. Emmanuel has seen significant growth in the past two years and it's putting an enormous stress on their water supply. Our goal is to fund an additional well. Estimated cost: $20,000.
  3. Adequate Housing. Emmanuel's growth has also put an enormous strain on housing, particularly with the toddlers. They will soon need additional space. The World Orphan Fund will assist with funds to help build additional housing at the Orphanage at the appropriate time. Estimated cost: TBD.
Mersy Turns Fifteen

Mersy and I built a lot of trust between us on this trip. It's really weird how we totally get each other, it's like she was meant to be my kid.

Back in January I had learned how important her QuinceaƱera was to her. In her culture, turning 15 is a HUGE deal for a girl. Dunia Lopez told me how Mersy was dreaming of a big party for her 15th birthday and was saving up her money for it. She had saved maybe 10 dollars. A party would cost 20 times that.

With Lydia and Wade's permission, I left money at the Orphanage to pay for the festivities. Mersy and I looked in Guaimaca for a dress but had no luck. I then frantically called Dunia who immediately agreed to meet me at the airport in Tegucigalpa and find the dress there. Dunia was so excited she went out and found the dress the very next day and later took the long bus ride from Tegucigalpa to Guaimaca to deliver it to Mersy. So in June, thanks to help from everyone at the orphanage and Dunia Lopez, Mersy had her dream party. I can't wait to hear about it on my next trip.


Mersy on her 15th Birthday. Daysha Clark (pictured) did her hair.